Just Call!
24 Feb 06 — Sometimes I think we deliberate too much and don’t give ourselves enough credit. Why I say this is cause during the recent trip back, there was this friend, Beng, who I really thought I should call and catch up with, haven’t done so for such a long time, even though when we accidentally “found” each other again on the internet previously, we were thrilled to bits. But then he stopped writing and I just wasn’t sure… he seemed so busy, didn’t want to get into his way. I mean, just ‘cos I go home to Singapore doesn’t mean I’m such a big shot that everyone has to make time for me right? I think better not call lah… So those were the thoughts running through my mind; so much so that I even conveniently decide to leave him out of the ROM guest list. Nonetheless every time William and I pass by Tanjong Pagar (that’s where Beng stays) to look at bridal stores, I always thought to call. Then the cycle repeats, I convince myself I’m not important enough, he won’t have time and I don’t.
Then I come back to Sydney, happened to look at his website, and was excited to see he had a new entry, he hasn’t had one for 10 months! So great! He’s still out there somewhere, alive and kicking. In my excitement, I decided to drop him a two-liner, ‘cos you know, he won’t have the time to read a long email from me… but then, guess what happens? He comes back with a gushing sweet long email about how excited he was to see the pictures of Wil and I at our ROM, how he has missed me too, and how he had even contemplated calling my house during Chinese New Year but chickened out of it, and the email itself was titled “MUACCCCKKKSSS”…
Geez! So you see what I mean when I say we deliberate too much? Turns out Beng had the same thoughts running through his mind. Sometimes we think we’re doing the other person a favour by not imposing ourselves on them, but seriously, we’re not. Beng is right, and I quote “no la sometimes true can b busy but no matter wat work aint e end of life but frens are, so no matter how busy also will find time…” Now I feel like such a moron for not calling. So if you find yourself in the same situation, just pluck up the courage, pick up the phone and call! Yes, you are worthy.