Archive for May, 2006

After Billie Left

Monday, May 29th, 2006

14 May 2006 — It’s been a while since William left, and slowly but surely, things are returning back to normal. It was horrible those first few days. I immediately felt the emptiness, the huge gap that he left behind. Whilst I was coping the first few weeks prior to his arrival, after he left, I was a mess. Became a complete recluse. Didn’t feel like seeing anyone, didn’t feel like going anywhere, no appetite, and just wanted to sleep in as much as I could. In fact, I got so anti-social that for lunch, instead of eating at the canteen, I’d just skipped it and head back to Ban Dok Mai for the hour so that I didn’t have to make small talk with my colleagues.

And it wasn’t even like I wasn’t supported. ‘Cos probably people could see I was feeling a bit down, they all tried to include me in their activities, from other health advisors to the nurses to the fitness guys. But frankly, all I wanted was to be left alone. A couple of times I manage to pick myself up enough to join a group of people for dinner, (I was also getting tired of turning people down over and over again) but I’d soon find the whole thing too tedious, having to chat and pretend everything’s ok, and end up leaving the party prematurely. So after a while, heck, I just stayed in my room again. I guess I just needed some time to curl up and “mourn”… and you know, it’s ok. It’s alright to acnkowledge our sadness. We shouldn’t always have to put on a happy face for the benefit of others. And I think after a while, people started to git-it and kind of left me alone.

What really helped perk me up though was chatting with Adeline over Skype. It was one of thse days when we both happened to be online and I amazingly happened to have some free time. Ah… the comfort of speaking to an old friend, who knows you, who knows where you’re coming from, who speaks your lingo, and who somehow or other always suceed in making her plight sound worse than yours… does wonders to brighten your day! Also helps that she was so certain my case of melancholia wasn’t going to last and that I was going to snap right out of it. Her boost of confidence must have done the trick. Slowly I began to emerge out of my poor-me shell and am glad to announce I’m pretty much back to my usual hippie happie self. Oh well, life goes on…

Setting Foot on Hua Hin Soil

Wednesday, May 10th, 2006

9 Apr 2006 – So yes, folks, I am well and truly in Hua Hin, Thailand now. It’s been a week since I’ve been here, and just today, I’ve had my first day off – pretty nice, it being a Sunday, though I don’t think this will be the long-term arrangement, too good to be true.

So let’s see, what have I been up to? Training, training and more training. Well, I’m here to work afterall. Yep, being a Health and Wellness Consultant puts me in the forefront in terms of the guest, hence I have to get to know every aspect of the resort, and CS has been absolutely thorough in that. Not only have I went round to meet all the different department heads and went “on tour” of all the various facilities, I’ve also had to try out quite a few classes, and as a bonus, almost all the spa treatments on the menu. Well, you know, part of the job, how am I going to explain to the guest what the treatment was all about not having experienced it for myself? And frankly, while at first my colleagues warn that I can actually get too much of a good thing and I didn’t believe them, I’m starting to see that for myself now. After being massaged in the same spot for 3, 4 times in a day, those muscles can get really sore! Almost to the point where you just want to say “Stop! Leave me alone!” Never thought I’d see this day – one too many spa treatments???

Oh, oh, let’s not forget those less than appetizing treatments as well, for instance, Colonics! For the clueless, it’s a procedure where they clean out your insides by sticking a tube up your anus and flushing bucket loads of water into your colon. Yeah, get the picture? Imagine how thrilled I was to have to do that… and what happened? Let’s just say I survived, barely.

On the bright side, my diet has definitely taken a turn for the good. Apparently 80+% of the guests here want to lose weight, thus all the food served is low in fat, low in calories, and has no added sugar or salt. In fact, lots of the ingredients, especially the veggies, are organically grown in the resort’s own gardens. It’s quite funny, under every item in the menu or at the buffet line, there’s a little note telling you how many calories and grams of fat that dish contains. E.g. lemongrass tea, which can be found everywhere in the resort: 0g fat, 0 calories – yep, a clear winner! Catch is that it’s also very diuretic, makes you wee tons! Which is also good, even if not convenient.

So as a H&W consultant, again, I get to eat stuff off the guests’ “spa cuisine” menu – ooh, very fancy… except that it’s all served cling-wrapped on blue melamine plates in the staff canteen. Haha! Let’s see, for dinner tonight, I had a Grilled Scallop Salad, Roast Lamb Cutlets served with Mashed Potato and Wilted Spinach and for dessert, fresh pineapple. Yes, I am back in tropical fruit heaven. Was suffering in Australia for the last 5 years. This is coming from someone who previously ate 10 servings of fruits per day, had to re-educate my tastebuds quite a bit downunder, BUT not anymore! Here, I can have more than I can swallow, all nicely peeled, deseeded and ornately cut too!

Work-wise, it has been pretty good indeed, busy but not too hectic nor stressful yet. Though those that have come before have warned that this is only the honeymoon period, so don’t expect it to last. Speaking of which, yeah, it’s quite a decent team of people that I’m working with – both “farangs” and Thais alike, everyone’s really nice and helpful and supportive, so far anyway. Belinda, another H&W consultant who’s been here 4 months is just great, she’s been an absolute star both in terms of showing me around the place and just sharing about her life and experiences. The other day, someone just mentioned though that this environment we’re in is pretty much like “Big Brother” and yeah, I guess it’s only a matter of time before I see the cracks in the picture. Not too soon I hope. Right now I’m quite content to think everyone’s an angel.

The biggest distress for me by far has got to be not having my Billie around me. Like geez, after being with the guy for 10 years, of which 7 we were living together, it does take a bit of getting used to not to have him by my side. The toughest part is at night in bed. Not that we’re the cuddly type, not for the last 5 years anyway, but still there’s a certain sort of comfort when you know your loved one is beside you when you’re sleeping. And hee hee, not to embarrass him too much but actually after all these years, when I was still back in Sydney, he’d used to still tuck me into bed every night, and always always planted a kiss on my forehead. So yeah, I definitely miss that. And you know, just the ease of having a man around, Mr Fix-It-So-I-Don’t-Have-To-Lift-A-Finger. Sigh… but that’s part of the reason why I opted to come right? To grow, to take responsibility for myself…

I must admit that at the moment, I’m still not that good with being alone. I’m alright around the resort and in my own room, but the thought of going into town quite scares me really, especially in a strange place where everything seems so foreign and I don’t speak the language. Yeah, haven’t gone much further than Sawadee kaa and Kop Khun kaa. In a moment of sheer recklessness, I did go to the new shopping mall (five minutes down the road) the other day to grab a few household items. And today, after a visit to the organic gardens with Angelika, my manager (who coincidentally started the same day as me), I took a little walk down to the beach, just a stone’s throw away from the staff living quarters. Indeed I did, for a grand total of 5 minutes! Oh well, baby steps… one day at a time.

Ok, that’s it from me for now. Not too bad considering I don’t even have internet in my room yet. Yeah will you believe it, I’m only typing this out on my laptop, need to figure out some way to actually get it uploaded. Oh well, tomorrow.

Billie in Town

Thursday, May 4th, 2006

4 May 2006 — So the big highlight of last week was that Billie came to town. And seeing how I might not be so adventurous as to head to Bangkok on my own later on, especially when I only have a single day off, I thought yup, this would be a good time to go. Not only would I be able to spend some time with Bi there, but more importantly, we get to have our little reunion with Joerg, and meet Tina, his new wife! So on Tuesday, right after work at 5pm, I rushed to catch the last van to Bangkok. Not too bad, the ride was of course a bit bumpy, but we got to Bangkok in one piece and in good time too. We actually reached Bangkok by 8pm, and just a little later, I found myself in the arms of Billie and the good company of Joerg and Tina over a bowl of ramen in the Thong Lo district. Fantastic! It was such good fun, catching up after 6 years, in Bangkok! Who would have thought?!?

And Joerg and Tina are so much in love and so affectionate with each other that it’s infectious.

Over the next couple of days, amidst lotsa catching up ourselves, Billie and I managed to get almost everything on my big-trip-to-town shopping list: chockies, speaking of which, he actually got me a box of Godiva Platinum range ones from the US. I love him so much at that point I could kiss his toes!

Look, aren’t they BEAUUUTIFUL?
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